One of the biggest blocks to seeking recovery can be the myth that someone has to “hit rock bottom” before they can recover from a drug habit.
Rock bottom is a fallacy. We all have a Hollywood version of it in our minds – under a bridge with a brown paper bag – but not many people actually have that experience. Anyway, the person under the bridge may very well have made the decision to continue drinking, to stay away from recovery.
The decision to recover can come to someone at any time—whenever they’re ready for a new life, ready to be done with the sickness, the hangovers, and the consequences. Many young people have chosen recovery after just a few years of using.
I compare addiction to a speeding freight train: we are free to jump off at any point. Some people get off early, while the train is still accelerating, some wait until the train gets shaky and the wheels fall off, and some wait for the crash. But do they have to?
When someone chooses to recover, they’ve likely had some negative consequences from their use, and the longer they use the more consequences there are. People can choose recovery early, before the consequences really start to pile up.
“Hitting bottom” is an emotional experience. Someone hits bottom in their mind, with their feelings, in their heart and soul. It has nothing to do with what their life looks like from the outside.
A lot of people look like they’re really happy when they’re using, and often their friends are surprised that they’re even considering recovery. They may have an abundant life, houses, and a good job—but, on the inside, using is taking a huge emotional toll.
When I chose to get sober, my life looked very abundant. In fact, I decided to get sober in a vacation house in the Hamptons. Inside, however, I was emotionless and very unhappy—but I never told anyone about my feelings.
People can choose recovery at any time, and we want to catch them before too many bad things have happened. They don’t need to wait until they “lose everything” to recover, and, in fact, many people don’t wait that long. I liken recovery to a self-help program that we choose for ourselves. We’ve all chosen workouts, medications, and diets for self-improvement. We consciously choose to adhere to those programs. Most people choose to diet, for instance, when they notice a few extra pounds—long before they become obese.
You can choose recovery any time you want. Most people that question their substance use have already reached an emotional bottom, whether they’re expressing it to others or not. What others see, on the outside, may not reflect what you’re feeling on the inside.
Let’s bust the myth that someone has to hit “rock bottom.” Let’s help people chose recovery before they hit that point. By intervening early, we can tap into someone’s emotional bottom. They might already be there.
Our goal with an intervention is to help someone see the consequences of their substance use, to shine a light on something that they are missing. We want to help them choose recovery at a point before rock bottom.
Adam Banks is a certified recovery coach and interventionist at Suntra Modern Recovery. He received an MBA from the University of Chicago and built a company which United Health Care acquired. He learned his rigor and attention to detail from his career as an airline pilot, holding an ATP, the FAA’s highest license.
Suntra Modern Recovery provides medical treatment for alcohol and opiate addictions via video visit with medical doctors. Suntra’s alcohol and drug intervention services are available in New York, Long Island, and the Hamptons. Treatment for opiate and heroin addiction, including Suboxone treatment, can start today.