If you consider yourself a functional alcoholic, are you really functioning at your highest level? Or have you lowered the bar of what’s acceptable to cater to your addiction?
When some people decide to get sober, they feel like sobriety is a life sentence. They can’t imagine never drinking again and it feels like a giant invisible hand is forcing them to get sober. Getting sober is a choice you make for self-improvement. Just like any program of self-improvement, it requires a daily commitment to change. “Take it one day at a time” is a common piece of advice in Twelve Step programs. When I was in early sobriety, that expression – okay, all Twelve Step expressions – annoyed me. I knew that it wasn’t one day at a time; my time was up, and I had to be sober for the rest of my life. My sponsor reminded me often that I could choose to drink any day. That, too, felt like a trick, because deep down I knew that I could never drink again – even though I wanted to. Today, 12 years sober, I understand that I could drink today, but I don’t want to. Every day I make the choice to remain sober, just as I have every day for the last twelve years. I liken the decision to choose sobriety to the decision to… Read More »Choosing Recovery
When putting a dollar value on recovery, consider how much money you would pay to change everything in your life. How much would you pay to keep your children? How much would you pay to keep your job? How much would you pay on your child’s behalf to totally change their life? How much would you pay to have four more hours in a day?
It wasn’t until the COVID-19 crisis that her life totally fell apart. Overnight, she had to start homeschooling, her daily activities were totally disrupted, and the stress of having three kids (and her husband!) in the house all day long drove her to drink more and more.
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”
Our goal with an intervention is to help someone see the consequences of their substance use, to shine a light on something that they are missing. We want to help them choose recovery at a point before rock bottom.
To determine how to help someone, it is necessary to hear the stories of the people around them. To find the right facility for a person in need, we need to know whether the issue is an addiction or a mental health problem or both.
To really change a behavior, you need to make a commitment and take action every single day. No one gets sober in a day, but you can commit to making a beginning any day you want.
In recovery I have been able to do some amazing things. I adopted two children from Colombia, graduated from a top business school, and I started and sold a successful company. Getting sober has been, without a doubt, that one best accomplishments of my life.
May began her career at a hard-charging tech start up – it was a difficult job to get, but at a quality company that matched the quality of her college. Her hours were long and stressful and the job was very demanding. May continued to use Adderall at her job, which was common among the other young people at her company – they ever traded pills just like May had back in high school and college.